There are a few broad categories of behavior that fall into the definition of “harassment” for this site:
- Not taking “no” for an answer: If you contact someone asking to chat or for pics or what have you and the person declines and you contact them again, you are harassing that person. No response is the same as a “no” response, meaning that if you do not receive any sort of response to your request, treat it as though the person said “no” and don’t repeatedly pester them for a response; it is annoying and I guarantee that it won’t get you what you want.
- Sending unsolicited explicit content to a person: Don’t be that person who sends a dick pic (or the equivalent) as your way of saying hello. It’s not endearing; it’s not cute; it’s not welcome.
- Threatening, degrading, or hostile behavior: This can often be related to Category 1, but doesn’t always have to be. Calling someone derogatory names, especially when you’ve been told not to, threatening or blackmailing a person, etc. is harassment and will not be tolerated.
Please note that the mods, myself included, are neither all-seeing nor all-knowing, so we cannot act on harassment if it is not reported. If the harassment is on the site, please use the “Report a Post/PM” feature. If it occurred off site, please PM a mod and include screenshots or any other evidence you may have. I would ask that when you PM a mod to report harassment, you CC either me or Butter on it (Butter has been instrumental in assisting me in preparing a response to this situation) so that we are aware of what’s going on.
Put very simply (and bluntly), treat other members with respect and we won’t have a problem. Do not act like an entitled brat. Other members do not owe you anything and you are not entitled to anything from them (even a response to a simple hello). It does not matter if the other member has sent you pics in the past or interacted with someone else in the way you’re trying to interact with them or anything like that. You are not entitled to their attention or their response. If you are incapable of grasping this concept, then you do not belong on this site.
Because this situation overwhelmingly involves female members of this site, we are looking to add at least one, if not more, female members to the mod team. If you are interested (or if you know someone who would be interested), please PM me.
Lastly, on behalf of myself and the rest of the WH mod team, I offer my deepest apologies for the delay in our response to this trend. It has been bubbling under the surface for some time now, and our failure to adequately respond to/address it is inexcusable. All I can say is that we will do our best to improve on this going forward.