When this site first began all those years ago, the online landscape was quite different. The mecca of m/m wedgie sites, World Wide Wedgie, had been gone for about a year and a half and the wedgie community at the time moved to Yahoo Groups as a way to keep the community going. That worked for a while, until Yahoo began shutting down those groups because of their content.
A new message board, Wedgie Heaven, entered the scene as a place for the m/m wedgie community to congregate and post content. Unlike earlier sites, Wedgie Heaven's format as a message board allowed for a much greater degree of interaction between members. Unfortunately, the owner of that site disappeared after a few short months, leaving no one with the power to administer the site.
That's where I came into the picture. Not wanting to see the community wither and die, I created a new message board called Wedgie Heaven II to continue what Wedgie Heaven had begun. As the site grew and surpassed the original, it no longer made sense to call it Wedgie Heaven II, so the name was changed to Wedgie Haven, with the goal being that the site would be a refuge for the wedgie community (particularly the m/m wedgie community).
Over the years, a strong sense of community developed between certain members and the site ran remarkably smoothly. The moderators were active and involved and, although there were some bumps and rough patches, things generally were going well.
Of course, it's important not to look back on this time with rose-colored glasses. The sense of community felt by some members developed into a clique that was felt by other members to be rather exclusionary. This tightly knit group would monopolize certain sections of the site and talk for hours mainly about non wedgie-related things, which in and of itself is fine, but was frequently accompanied by a sense of derision when other members would want to use the same public space to talk about wedgie-related things.
In any event, time continued to pass. People got older, life circumstances changed, and the internet itself changed. Much of the core group (both moderators and non-moderators) eventually left for a variety of reasons. At the same time, new sites such as Tumblr and Instagram came along, making the sharing of images and videos far easier than it had been. Additionally, several prominent sites that focused on female wedgies went under, leading to an influx of female members here.
All of this is a long-winded way of bringing us to the present moment. Sites and services like Instagram, Tumblr, Slack, and Discord have made several of the core functions of this site seemingly redundant, and I find myself wondering how much of this site is necessary in the present moment. Add in an apparent harassment crisis that, honestly, I'm not sure we have the capacity to effectively deal with and I find myself wondering for the first time in a long time whether the benefits of this site existing continue to outweigh the costs.
None of this is to say that this site will definitely be closing in the near term, but it has existed for nearly 13 years with very few significant structural changes. Given the way the internet has changed in that time, it would certainly seem prudent to re-evaluate the structure and purpose of this site to see if it still makes sense to run and what changes, if any, should be made to it. Given that this site is nothing without its members, I would appreciate any constructive feedback, thoughts, or suggestions that any of you have.